I was completely fired up to go and meet the lady who has taken ‘therapy’ to the next level, Alison Raphael. Why this was of interest to me was the fact that Alison specialises in such a wide variety of fields which all somehow apply to my life.
– How to juggle work life with balancing a home and family
– Financial pressures
– Relationship problems
– Personal relationship battles such as eating, lack of self-confidence
– How to resolve conflict with peers/colleagues
Being in a relationship for twelve years married for five and a little baby boy who turned one in November, there is no denying that every family encompasses some sort of worries or problems. It is not a bad thing to ask for help and try to link these negative feelings to something positive.
Alison can offer her patient’s treatment via Skype, email and flexi-offices around London. Alison found that therapy is much more effective when people are ‘treated’ in the environment where they often have the anxiety or problem such as at home or in the workplace. When her patient’s visit her she repeatedly finds that the minute they left they would eventually go back into panic mode and it was important to deal with this. The NHS has also started to fund ‘online therapy’ as statistics show that it can reduce anxiety levels by 29% and depression by 35%. It also gives the patient the opportunity to have an instant ‘call’ with Alison to address the problem, instead of having to wait for their routine appointment in which their moment of panic may have passed.
Online therapy is proving to reduce anxiety levels by 29% and depression levels by 35%
Who Is Alison Raphael
Rooted in her own profound experience as both client and practitioner, Alison has developed a completely new and flexible model of talking therapy. It enables and supports a journey of personal exploration unlike any other. It allows clients to tailor their therapeutic process – both in terms of time, method and location, resulting in the most empowering outcomes. Alison Raphael has been a successful therapist for over a decade. She saw the opportunity to use her own experience to help encourage people to develop stronger relationships – given that most issues she encounters are caused by, or result in, ‘relationship’ difficulties – whether with people, food, or the world at large. Initially, and typically of the sector, consultations took place in her office. However it became apparent that many of the benefits of therapy were diluted on the client’s departure back into their ‘real’ world, where it is often difficult to cope with the session’s outcome.
The Future For Therapy
Alison Raphael has switched the therapy paradigm from an ‘appointment only in the
clinic’ attitude, to a ‘whenever and wherever needed’ methodology that is proving far more successful. Flexible therapy that enables her clients to create the best relationships with the world around them, for the long term.
It is no surprise at Alison Raphael’s successful practice to hear of yet another ‘modern marriage’ breaking down, and fortunately for her forward thinking approach she is able to help many relationships get back on track… but first it is important to take a few steps back to see where the problem actually started.
It is impossible to say that one’s marriage falls apart from one particular element however Alison talks North London Calling through the most common scenarios.
The moment you are dishonest and lie to your partner you have set yourself a destructive path. When you sign up to a future together, honesty is one of the most important rules to respect and the second this is broken the marriage quickly takes a downwards spiral. Alison strongly encourages all couples to honour their relationship through truth and respect from day one.
Interestingly Alison is not referring to the accessibility to cheat via social media. Instead she has said a lot of couples do not know when to put their phones down and tend to ignore their other half. This is then grouped with the idea of people having a severe lack of self-worth as they look at all of these ‘perfect lives’ on social media and feel that their life is inadequate. Alison cannot stress enough that it is important to engage in conversation with your partner and not use your phone as a substitute. Quite often it is those who boast on social media that are seeking public reassurance from their unhappy life.
3. Sexual problems
Many couples’ sexual problems stem from their difficulties discussing the subject, especially when sexual desire between men and women usually differ. It is therefore crucial to keep communication open regarding your sexual bond. To begin, men are more readily biologically aroused than women, and, for them, desire is tied tightly to their physiological arousal. Women’s, sexual desire is typically more psychological, influenced by how they feel about their bodies as well as the quality of relationship they have with their partner. A very prior problem is understanding the lower sexual desired partner which needs lack of judgement, as usually something much deeper is going on.
4. Financial forecasts
There are normally two types of people, says Alison. You have those that spend every penny they earn and live for the moment, and then you have the individual who looks out for their future and saves. If your financial outlook is not aligned with your partner it can cause frustrations and conflict. Again this goes back to trust and how money is spent. Alison therefore stresses that couples need to discuss how the money is spent in a marriage before it all escalates.
5. Be-friending your children
Alison mentions how a lot of her client’s decide to be-friend their child, rather than keep a parental role. Their partner then becomes less significant in the relationship. Boundaries must play an important role in honouring the partnership as a priority because if the relationship isn’t nourished, the children lose out and so does the partnership.
Lastly, a number of couples are in-denial that anything is wrong and continue their day to day lives being miserable and afraid of change. Alison urges these couples to seek therapy as quite often the behaviour of the individuals stems to their childhood or behaviour they were exposed to growing up. It is also massively important that couples still praise and love each other, as sadly people have become very quick to criticise their partners and to self- criticise which is misunderstood these days and it is doing more harm than good.
To book an online consultation or appointment with Alison (Radlett and Primrose Hill) please contact 07962224433.
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